I'm an ideal that can't live up to it's idea.I tend to put people i love and respect on a pedestal. you might not see anything wrong with that except that when they fall off that horse, it hurts me more than it hurts them and i have no one to blame but myself for refusing to believe they're just human. on the other hand i know i've fallen from grace in front of more than just one pair of eyes.
underestimating someone can at least lead to a more obvious and distinct reward. personally, when i don't think much of someone and they prove me wrong with time, i feel bewildered and a great but weird respect for humanity. i'm not scared to admit i've done it more than once and some of those who i secretly held in contempt are now really good friends of mine. and i love them all the more for it.
sorry.
overestimating someone always leads to heartbreak but also an enlightenment that we can't help but appreciate. we glamorize them in our head. they intrigue us intellectually and/or emotionally and we look for things in them that bring us to their level. the level which is completely concocted through our own infatuation. sometimes it takes years for us to realize that that person wasn't really who we thought they were. something triggers this, an event, something said or something done. the love and respect is not lost but there's a difference in it. disappointment is inevitable. and really you can't be mad at them. all you can do is promise yourself to be more aware and to not let that happen again. i've made the mistake a million times in both overestimating and underestimating. i was never good at math.
Oh Amman, I really like this one. You have learned a great lesson early in life.
ReplyDeleteI think we know who they are right away but we don't always listen to our own intuition. We have other reasons for why we brush the feelings aside.
Finding out what those reasons are is the key. Is it acceptance in a group? The avoidance of confrontation? Love?
I think women are often better at this because we have to do it more often for safety reasons. We analyze the parking lot, the guy walking towards us, the guy who strikes up a conversation in the bar. Our brains are always trying to figure out who this person is.
And then lots of them move in with the asshole anyways.
thanks lori, and the part bout women doing it for safety reasons makes me laugh cuz too many stories come to mind. ill leave u the shortest one.
ReplyDeleteone time on the skytrain, i noticed this very cute girl would keep looking up at me from her book while reading. a cute girl with a book in her hand, definitely a turn on. so anyway i made up my mind that im going to get off the same station as her and ask her if she'd like to get a cup of coffee or something. so we get off and i was behind her and so i tapped her on the shoulder and said "excuse me" and she, without looking back, clenched her purse and practically ran. i couldn't help but laugh inside. at least it made for a good giggle at the party i was on my way to.
Oh crap you are lucky you didn't get maced.
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